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Posted by 1coyote on February 10, 2004, at 15:04:04
I was posting previously as zenn4 but stayed away b/c I unknowingly took a name similiar to someone else's while they were blocked. I have now changed my name. My psychiatrist and I decided to call it quits after we had "feelings" for each other. I have posted about this quandry before. However, now that she has badgered me into a relationship, she now decides "it's not a good idea". I am feeling used and stupid. Please, no moralistic little guidelines - we both knew what we were doing. I think she is being passive/aggressive and there are no options for me to pursue. I do not think any intervention, professionally or otherwise, is especially warranted. After all, I am an adult and I made a decision, the only problem is now I am feeling "had". Any constructive advice would appreciated. Believe me, in my own opinion, any feelings you might think you have with your therapist/shrink - is bound to be forever skewed by the difference in power.
Posted by pinkeye on February 10, 2004, at 15:26:03
In reply to SUNK - relationship, posted by 1coyote on February 10, 2004, at 15:04:04
Hi lCoyote,
I wouldn't start judging your ex psychiatrist for what she had done. She is also a human and bound to make mistakes and maybe she genuinely felt attracted to you at that time. But now her opinion has changed and decided it is best to not pursue it anymore. As with any relationships, imbalance of power is a fact.. even in day to day relationships, there is a power imbalance and you would be equally hurt if some normal person you were having an affair with decided to break off. So take it at that, and don't hold any grudges towards her. Are you a woman or a man?
PinkEye.
Posted by Joslynn on February 11, 2004, at 9:45:43
In reply to Re: SUNK - relationship, posted by pinkeye on February 10, 2004, at 15:26:03
Well, from what I've read, my understanding of attachment and transference is that even though we are adults, it can put us back into a childlike state of mind. So saying that we are consenting adults, while literally true, may not be true in the world of transference. The things I've read have said that a therp who crosses lines is taking unfair advantage of a childlike state of mind.
Posted by Fallen4myT on February 11, 2004, at 10:42:51
In reply to Re: SUNK - relationship, posted by Joslynn on February 11, 2004, at 9:45:43
I hope she changes her mind and that you can accept her human waiverings. think she is just so conflicted that she didnt mean to hurt you she wanted you but then the other side of her the professional side took over..shame? So it may pass...I wish my T would move towards me I would be open to it short term even
Posted by shortelise on February 11, 2004, at 14:17:27
In reply to Re: SUNK - relationship, posted by Fallen4myT on February 11, 2004, at 10:42:51
this is a book by Baur. I would be happy to post it in the way that Dr.B wants with the amazon link, but I have no idea how to do that....
It's a wonderful book about love and the patient-therapist relationship.
Shorte
Posted by Karen_kay on February 11, 2004, at 14:39:00
In reply to the intimate hour, posted by shortelise on February 11, 2004, at 14:17:27
To provide a link to it, you use a double quotation mark... like so.. " then type the name of the book, then use another double quotation mark"
"the intimate hour" let's see if it works...
Posted by shortelise on February 11, 2004, at 16:28:49
In reply to Re: the intimate hour » shortelise, posted by Karen_kay on February 11, 2004, at 14:39:00
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 13, 2004, at 8:47:21
In reply to Re: the intimate hour » shortelise, posted by Karen_kay on February 11, 2004, at 14:39:00
This is the end of the thread.
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