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Posted by pescavus on August 14, 2007, at 19:32:29
Change your name. Everyone's doing it. hmmm I wonder why? Nah... THAT can't be it.
So seriously, you going to let that stop you from posting? You may be no angel yourself, but surely you've never done anything to hurt your friends intentionally.
And wouldn't this be a nice time to remind ourselves how much we mean to each other? Even when we feel insecure, when we wait and hold our breath and wonder what the consequences of this breach of trust are.
You feel scared? I don't blame you. I feel scared too. I'm not afraid to say so. Who wouldn't be scared? It doesn't feel good to tell someone about a personal vulnerability, giving them information in the hopes that they will help you feel better. Isn't that the basis of deep friendships? Isn't that the basis of the therapeutic relationship?
But would you really allow it to sour the community that we have built together? Allow a single incident to undermine all of that? Be brave.
I'm disgusted with myself, personally, but I also know that the only way to heal this rift is to jump back in and keep the relationships I DO have alive and well.
Even though you may never feel safe, that your personal email address and personal data has been cc'd behind your back without your knowledge, you can still be a part of things here.
judgement and prudence and a new name means a fresh start.
just be glad that you have more to your life than this place!
pescavus
Posted by Poet on August 14, 2007, at 20:42:20
In reply to Who's afraid of the big bad wolf?, posted by pescavus on August 14, 2007, at 19:32:29
Posted by JoniS on August 14, 2007, at 20:44:51
In reply to Who's afraid of the big bad wolf?, posted by pescavus on August 14, 2007, at 19:32:29
I'm not afraid. I guess I didn't build up a false sense of security. Or maybe I'm just ignorant.[actually the only one I don't want to know what I'm posting is my DH - LOL]
It is sad that hardly anyone is appearing lately. I'm hoping it will get back to some sort of "normal"
So why didn't you say who you were in your previous life - I mean name? I hate guessing games. I do much better with black and white, straight out, dont beat around the bush sort of communication. Soemtimes I step on toes though. I dont' mean to.
I hate to bring up old stuff, but I never did get whether all that stuff was a misunderstanding upon misunderstanding, or whether there really was something else happening. I guess I have decided that it was misunderstandings.
I guess I need Babble support, so much so that I'm willing to take the risk of putting "my stuff" out there.
"Thanks" to everyone who is hanging in there!
JoniS
Posted by Maria01 on August 14, 2007, at 22:08:13
In reply to Who's afraid of the big bad wolf?, posted by pescavus on August 14, 2007, at 19:32:29
I've been following the most recent thread regarding a breach of trust, and I guess it serves to remind me to never post anything anywhere on the web that I a) wouldn't tell someone in person and b)wouldn't want made public knowledge.
It's a bummer this most recent breach of trust happened; but it just further underscored the sentiment that the 'net is a public domain, no matter how private we think it may be. Sad, but true.
Ozland, I will miss your calm and insightful posts, but I completely understand your hesistation.
Posted by DAisym on August 15, 2007, at 0:59:52
In reply to Re: Who's afraid of the big bad wolf? » pescavus, posted by JoniS on August 14, 2007, at 20:44:51
me too. I'm not here as much due to personal issues, not fear. It has always been true that this is 1) a place where people struggle with mental health issues, like boundaries and 2) a web site that isn't "private." So caution is prudent. That said, I've made some terrific friends -- so risking getting to know someone *can* be a good thing.
And agree about guessing names. It is harder for me than the privacy stuff. I don't know who I'm talking to anymore. And my posting name means something to me, so I'm keeping it. :)
Posted by RealMe on August 16, 2007, at 21:38:59
In reply to Re: Who's afraid of the big bad wolf?, posted by Maria01 on August 14, 2007, at 22:08:13
Oh I am still here. I did change my name, and then I posted on Admin, and my old post name came up. I sort of freaked as we aren't supposed to use more than one name. So, I posted that I did not mean for that to happend and needed to get back to my new post name. This is it, but I think I will go back to OzLand as I like it better.
Re what I posted here about myself has not been anything I felt I needed to keep secret. It is stuff I emailed to someone that I hear about from others who were emailed. Plus, stuff I really have no idea how someone would know. I am not alone in this. Pretty scary. I email a couple of people, and everyone else I babblemail. I hope that explains some. I just want to drop it now and unless some thing comes up again about me that was never posted. So, I never really left. I have been around. I know what to do and will not be intimidated.
RealMe (formerly OzLand)
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