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Posted by Larry Hoover on June 21, 2006, at 10:44:16
In reply to Re: have no » Gabbi~G, posted by Larry Hoover on June 21, 2006, at 10:41:08
> Whatever.
Incredibly rude. Sorry.
Posted by Dr. Bob on June 21, 2006, at 11:21:40
In reply to Re: have no » Gabbi~G, posted by Larry Hoover on June 21, 2006, at 7:13:55
> you set it up so I was just 'sposed to be a silent sandbag.
Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused. I'm really sorry about this, but I'm going to block you from posting for 10 weeks.
But please don't take this personally, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person. And I don't want anything bad to happen to you. In a crisis, please also get help in person. You may also wish to check out a listing compiled by a poster of helpful web pages on coping with crisis at:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/psycho-babble-tips/links/Coping_with_crisis_001012507973
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please first see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
PS: I'm trying out a new system:
previous block: 6 weeks
period of time since previous block: 13 weeks
uncivil toward a particular individual or group: yes
particularly uncivil: no
different type of incivility: no
clearly didn't understand PBC and made effort to reply: no
provoked: yes
uncivil in multiple posts at same time: no
already archived: noIf we take 13 weeks, divide by 10, and round down, that's a reduction of 1 week. If we apply that to your previous block, that's 6 - 1 = 5 weeks. And if we double that, that's 10 weeks.
Posted by alesta on June 21, 2006, at 14:05:51
In reply to Re: have no » Larry Hoover, posted by Gabbi~G on June 20, 2006, at 23:13:23
> Why can't you concentrate on your own good fortune and leave me be.
gee, i think that's what he was doing until you interrupted his thread like you did. you are absolutely out of line to do what you did. and over nothing. leave him alone. and his fiance, which would be myself. you continually try to upset larry, obviously. you are hurting him, and me. i haven't checked to see if you received a pbc yet, but if you haven't, it is a real shame. you continually goad (sp?) larry...are you surprised that he finally exploded? please, just move on.
i've said my peace. say what you will. i hope larry and I can be strong and wise enough to avoid responding to any further toxic nonsense.
amy
Posted by wildcardII on June 21, 2006, at 14:16:57
In reply to Re: blocked for 10 weeks » Larry Hoover, posted by Dr. Bob on June 21, 2006, at 11:21:40
~that's a bit harsh Mr.Bob....i just don't get it
Posted by Dinah on June 21, 2006, at 14:18:26
In reply to Re: have no » Gabbi~G, posted by alesta on June 21, 2006, at 14:05:51
> you continually goad (sp?) larry...are you surprised that he finally exploded? please, just move on.
I understand that you're upset, but please be sensitive to the feelings of other posters even if yours are hurt.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Dr. Bob is always free to override deputy decisions. His email is on the bottom of each page. Please feel free to email him if you believe this decision was made in error.
Dinah, acting as deputy for Dr. Bob
Posted by Dinah on June 21, 2006, at 14:21:34
In reply to what??? 10 wks » Dr. Bob, posted by wildcardII on June 21, 2006, at 14:16:57
Please post followups to administrative matters to the Admin board.
Here's a link.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20060525/msgs/659757.html
Posted by Dinah on June 21, 2006, at 14:22:32
In reply to Re: have no » Gabbi~G, posted by alesta on June 21, 2006, at 14:05:51
Lar is a lucky man as well.
Best wishes to both of you.
Dinah
Posted by Dr. Bob on June 21, 2006, at 15:12:12
In reply to Re: have no, posted by Gabbi~G on June 20, 2006, at 23:24:18
> Taken from your e-mail of DECEMBER 22
Please don't disclose without permission communications from another poster. I'm really sorry about this, but I'm going to block you from posting for a week.
But please don't take this personally, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person. And I don't want anything bad to happen to you. In a crisis, please also get help in person. You may also wish to check out a listing compiled by a poster of helpful web pages on coping with crisis at:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/psycho-babble-tips/links/Coping_with_crisis_001012507973
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please first see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
PS: I'm trying out a new system:
previous block: 1 week
period of time since previous block: 69 weeks
uncivil toward a particular individual or group: yes
particularly uncivil: no
different type of incivility: no
clearly didn't understand PBC and made effort to reply: no
provoked: yes
uncivil in multiple posts at same time: no
already archived: noIf we take 69 weeks, divide by 10, and round down, that's a reduction of 6 weeks. If we apply that to your previous block, that takes you back to 0. And if we start from there, that's 1 week.
Posted by Tamar on June 21, 2006, at 15:51:47
In reply to Re: have no » Gabbi~G, posted by alesta on June 21, 2006, at 14:05:51
Wow! I didn't realise Larry's fiance was you! That's great news. I'm so pleased for both of you.
Tamar
Posted by Poet on June 21, 2006, at 16:16:37
In reply to Re: have no » Gabbi~G, posted by alesta on June 21, 2006, at 14:05:51
Hi Amy
<<i hope larry and I can be strong and wise enough to avoid responding to any further toxic nonsense.
I know you will be strong and wise enough. I got to meet Larry in Toronto and thought he was a pretty nice guy.
I wish you and Larry nothing, but the best.
Poet
Posted by Phillipa on June 21, 2006, at 17:13:27
In reply to Congratulations! » alesta, posted by Tamar on June 21, 2006, at 15:51:47
To both of you you are very special people and deserve nothing but the best!!!!!!!!Love Jan real name this time.
Posted by gardenergirl on June 21, 2006, at 18:34:03
In reply to Re: Oh, for the love of God » gardenergirl, posted by Larry Hoover on June 21, 2006, at 6:57:45
I'm disappointed that you didn't answer my questions, Larry. Although admittedly, what I'm asking is personal, so you certainly do not have to.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 21, 2006, at 18:38:25
In reply to Re: have no » Gabbi~G, posted by alesta on June 21, 2006, at 14:05:51
i hope larry and I can be strong and wise enough ...
I hope so too.
gg
Posted by Declan on June 21, 2006, at 19:40:56
In reply to Re: have no » Gabbi~G, posted by alesta on June 21, 2006, at 14:05:51
Congratulations Amy, all the best.....I only just worked it out.
Declan
Posted by llrrrpp on June 21, 2006, at 20:37:46
In reply to Re: have no » alesta, posted by Declan on June 21, 2006, at 19:40:56
Congratulations Amy,
I'm so happy for you both. Really, from the bottom of my heart. I'm just sad that you two can't be together on this post. I hope Larry's lurking still.A virtual champagne toast, from llrrrpp to Amy and Larry:
Pop!
fizzz!
clink!:)
-ll
Posted by verne on June 21, 2006, at 23:09:59
In reply to Re: Congratulations!, posted by Phillipa on June 21, 2006, at 17:13:27
Here's hoping that a babble block turns into a real-life blessing.
best wishes to both of you,
verne
Posted by ClearSkies on June 21, 2006, at 23:20:36
In reply to Re: have no » Gabbi~G, posted by alesta on June 21, 2006, at 14:05:51
Congratulations, Amy. I'm so happy for you and Lar!
CS
Posted by Sobriquet Style on June 22, 2006, at 7:37:25
In reply to Re: blocked for week » Gabbi~G, posted by Dr. Bob on June 21, 2006, at 15:12:12
> Taken from your e-mail of DECEMBER 22
>Please don't disclose without permission communications from another poster.
I'm glad thats not promoted on this site. A similar thing happened to me once and I found it repugnant to the point of nausea.
That was my little experience though and obviously not related to this subject, but enough to remind me of the incident.
~
Posted by LindaRG on June 22, 2006, at 22:52:34
In reply to Re: blocked for week, posted by Sobriquet Style on June 22, 2006, at 7:37:25
Be Careful
I dated Larry, I asked him about Gabbi, he told me they weren't together, but not to tell her about us. A month later he visited her.
I also asked about another poster who claimed to be seeing him. He told me it was all in her head. It wasn't.Unfortunately I also asked about you, he said that you had alters and were prone to delusion.
Also he said you were a flake.You've been through a lot with men. I hope you know what you are doing.
I don't care about the reaction to this.
Anyone who wants to see how Larry really is can just check the archives at some of the sites he posts on.He knows the truth. He's been reminded several times.
And the best to you Gabbi, for not holding what happened against me.
I know that it's difficult to be true to oneself with someone who is as popular as Lar.
It's not a nice place.
Posted by Dr. Bob on June 23, 2006, at 2:22:00
In reply to Alesta, posted by LindaRG on June 22, 2006, at 22:52:34
> I also asked about another poster who claimed to be seeing him. He told me it was all in her head. It wasn't.
Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down. Even if you're trying to help someone else.
But please don't take this personally, either, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please first see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by alesta on June 26, 2006, at 9:49:02
In reply to Re: Congratulations!, posted by verne on June 21, 2006, at 23:09:59
sorry i took so long to get back..i have very limited internet access right now. i promise to reply to those few (and rare) babblemails as soon as i can. i wanted to thank you guys *very* much for your heartfelt wishes! lar and i are doing great!!! things were a bit tense for a few days due to these boards (you can probably see why, heh :)), but now they are awesome. what doesn't kill me makes me stronger, man. love you guys!!!
take care,:-)
amy
Posted by susan47 on August 5, 2006, at 22:00:57
In reply to Re: please be civil » LindaRG, posted by Dr. Bob on June 23, 2006, at 2:22:00
I don't know any of you personally. And I don't know the many sides of the story, and I don't care to upset anyone. But I do know my own personal experience, very very lately. Now I know that yes, I was right on track with a man I very recently dated, and I know that there are men out there who are as nice as you please, but the signs are there if you look and sometimes you don't have to be looking very hard, and if you don't see it then you have only yourself to blame. Because guys like the one I dated, really do exist. There is no excuse for anyone not to know that. Duplicity, multiple affairs, lying and cheating .. you betcha ... men (and this does NOT refer to Larry, I don't know him) can be CAN be but are NOT always, not necessarily do they ever act out on this, but men are wired baby, hardwired for sex. And if they don't have a good enough reason to turn it off, they won't. It's too much of a struggle. Listen to this, from "The Female Brain" by Louann Brizendine, M.D. - "...Men, by contrast, have two and a half times the brain space devoted to sexual drive as well as larger brain centers for action and aggression. Sexual thoughts float through a man's brain every fifty-two seconds on average...."
It takes a real Man to control himself. It does. And take his attention and put it where his commitments lie.
And that's where other people get hurt. Lonely people, men and women both. There's a looooot of lonely people out there. Yup.
I'm not meaning to upset anybody. I'm not wanting to horn in on anybody's business. It's only an opinion and it's mine and I own it.
Posted by susan47 on August 5, 2006, at 22:05:33
In reply to Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob, posted by susan47 on August 5, 2006, at 22:00:57
It was fascinating reading all your guys' dirty laundry by the way, but it really made me feel kind of sick. I felt like a kid who stole a whole pile of candy and ate it all at once, but more than that, it made me feel haunted. Because people can be so f*cking cruel in their opinions of each other, and how they treat each other and can be made out to make themselves so pious, and it's always the Other Guy's fault, and nobody, but no one was taking any responsibility for anything negative, and quite frankly, it was All negative. Nobody's perfect but you shouldn't be hurting each other in public. Not on purpose, like this. We all hurt somebody just by the fact that we're alive and we have self-determination and we all hurt at times, and man it can be horrible. There's enough bad vibes out there. Why are you deliberately making it worse? Why?????
Posted by Dr. Bob on August 11, 2006, at 4:12:07
In reply to Above not meant for DB sorry I'm triggered, posted by susan47 on August 5, 2006, at 22:05:33
> It was fascinating reading all your guys' dirty laundry by the way, but it really made me feel kind of sick. ... people can be so f*cking cruel in their opinions of each other, and how they treat each other and can be made out to make themselves so pious, and it's always the Other Guy's fault, and nobody, but no one was taking any responsibility for anything negative
Please don't post anything that could lead others (such as those who posted before) to feel accused or put down.
But please don't take this personally, either, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please first see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by susan47 on August 14, 2006, at 2:07:27
In reply to Re: please be civil » susan47, posted by Dr. Bob on August 11, 2006, at 4:12:07
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